Dear Pastors/Church Members in leadership,
It had been my learned experience is that when people scream the loudest have the most to hide.
“We all have skeletons in the closet”
For example:
-A pastor I set under for a few years preached HARD on female chastity and dress code.
The entire time he had had an incestuous relationship with his daughter for decades ( childhood well into adulthood) and his wife knew about it.
- Another pastor I sat under preached HARD against drinking alcohol . He was a “greenhouse” Christian and grew up with all the rules. One of my family members so happened to run into him on vacation with his family….at a dive on the beach drinking.
- Another preacher I knew preached hard against the “prideful feminists and LGBTQ+” community on almost a weekly basis…BUT had his own deacons help him put on his suit coat, fix his tie, lint roll him, and spritz him with cologne before he walked out to start a service .
My point is …
We all do things wrong. That is just humanity. But to do things wrong and call out others so hatefully while we do it ourselves is hypocritical.
This is why people are leaving Christianity in droves. It is because they are being bullied by leadership, while the whole time getting the “ do as I say not as I do” speech.
Pastors are not above any other person in the congregation. They are called to serve others, not berate them.
Be honest. Be an open book. If you struggle with something, don’t use it as a platform to blast others so you can feel better about your own self.
Lead with love. Lead intentionally with compassion and empathy. Don’t put on a facade of perfection and holier than thou.
More and more people are seeing the disingenuous intentions of church leadership-and are tired of it.
Sincerely,
A Frustrated Christian
Amber Schultz
‘23
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